I Am Twitterpated

If you don't know what that word means, go watch Bambi again.

Marc and I have been out on 3 dates now (although one date was just chilling at my place), and everything is awesome. We really like each other, and I hope we continue to really like each other.

We also had sex. And it was good. It's almost like he was made to fit me...weird how that happens.

I know that he is blown away by my complete acceptance of who he is. He has told me a lot of stuff that I need to know about him, and nothing has been so extreme that I have said, "fuck it" and bailed. We have all made mistakes (ummmmm, yeah), and as long as we accept our mistakes, move on, and try to not make them again, everything should be cool. I'm interested in who he is now not the mistakes he made then.

Tomorrow he meets my friends. Some of them, at least, but definitely two who are very important to my life. Their acceptance of him is pretty much crucial to things being all happy in my world. I do think they will get along. Since he and I share a wicked sense of humor, and they seem to get along with me, I think it's pretty much a done deal between him and my friends.

We shall see how tomorrow goes.

One thing that is on my mind is how is his brother going to react when we tell him. I asked Marc the other night if he told his brother, and he said no, that he hadn't yet. He then kept saying how dumb his brother was for not pursuing anything with me in the past, and I said that it was better that he hadn't because I could have ended up with the wrong brother. That, of course, completely made it an "awwwwww" moment, but it's true...I really think that his brother and I were never a good match. Sure there was a physical attraction, but there was no mental, and his brother was too much of a "sheep" for me to want to be with him for the long haul. I really like Marc in a way that I never felt for his brother. It makes me happy that things never went anywhere with his brother.

He spent the night, and it was nice having him there...I was a little sad not having him in my bed last night, but figured that there would probably be a few more nights of him staying over in my future, so I should enjoy my alone time while I could!

Sigh...twitterpated...

I Like A Boy

I haven't "liked" a guy in a while...probably since Dean, and we all know how well that turned out. Marc is fantastic. We had our first date on Friday, and it was great. We went to an Italian restaurant for dinner, and then came back to my place to watch Thundercats.

Awesome.

We also made out for a long time...until about 5am...yeah...

I decided to tell the guys from JDate who I have been only talking to that I am not going to be going out on a date with them. I really like this guy, and don't feel like dating anyone else but him right now.

I am terrible at accepting compliments. It's weird for me when a guy tells me I'm sexy or I'm beautiful. I wish I was better, and I'm trying to work on it, but I always feel stuck not knowing what to say in return. I find Marc attractive...he's tall, and cute, and has a smile that makes me feel at ease for some reason. He's incredibly sweet and outgoing, and seems to love life. I just feel so awkward when he tells me how pretty I look.

We have date #2 tonight. I'm excited to see him again...I speak to him every day, multiple times, but I much rather see him in person. I also like the fact that he didn't wait a week to ask me out again. He waited a day.

Awesome.

Had I Only Known Then What I Know Now...

I would have never hooked up with a certain guy.

So, back in the day, I had a friend who I crushed on, but the feeling were never reciprocated...at least not on a long-term level. We had the tendency, on nights before I had family coming over to my house, to get drunk and hook up. Nothing ever came of this, and now he's an uber-religious Heeb who is off in Israel studying to be a rabbi and hoping to find a wife.

Got all that? Fantastic. Let's continue...

Sunday I went to an engagement party of sorts in the city at a friend's apartment. This friend also happens to be best friends with the guy from the above story. I wasn't feeling terribly well, but I figured I'd just show my face, wish the couple a mazel tov and be on my way. My plan never happened.

I met a guy there. Super Heeb's brother to be exact.

This guy and I completely hit it off. Strange that when I'm feeling like crap, the men gravitate towards me. Who would have thought that hacking up a lung was attractive?

So, stats of Marc: Tall, cute, a big bigger than his brother, but that's fine by me, 35, is a computer geek (awesome) and has a wicked sense of humor. He's quick with the comebacks, and agrees that his brother is nuts. Two "downsides" (that aren't really downsides to be honest): he's a Yankee fan (boooooo!) and he has a 13-year old kid.

I've never dated a guy with a kid. I don't know the back story (if he got married to the mother, if he just supported her, what the custody situation is), but I'm sure I will find it out eventually.

He lives in my town, so he ended up driving me home after dinner. He and I spent over an hour just talking in his car in the parking garage of the LIRR. We exchanged numbers, and before I even got home that night I had a text asking me out for this weekend.

So we have date #1 tomorrow (hopefully I will feel up to it...this bronchitis sucks). I'm hoping to have the nerve to ask him about his daughter. I don't know how to ask about the back story, but I guess it will just come up when it comes up.

Another thing that I must mention is that I told him about me and his brother. He is totally cool with it (being the past and all) and actually said how he liked that I told him right away. He had hypothesized that we might have, but then figured that had we hooked up, I would have told him eventually.

He's awesome.

I haven't felt this way about a guy in a while.

Jumping Back In (I think)

So, I haven't updated this blog in a while, and a lot has happened since the last post. With that said, let me recap:

One of the guys from JDate and I really hit it off over email and then on the phone. We have talked almost every day in some form since we started talking. There was a minor problem when I found out (on the worst day ever) that he had gone out on a few dates with one of my friends, but he's no longer seeing her (I know this because she hasn't spoken to me since he told her he didn't want to see her anymore and she went off on me). We finally went out on a date on Friday...

I think the date totally changed things for the worse. We had such a comfortable "relationship" before we went out, and now I feel like things have changed...he flirts when we do talk, but it's not as frequent, and I don't know what is up. I don't know if there will be a second date, and I almost wish that we never went out, since it seems to have completely ruined my comfort level with him (and possibly his with me). Argh...

Still talking as well to the other guy from JDate who went out with my roommate on two dates. Might go out with him at some point. He is the dirtiest guy I've met, and possibly the kinkiest. I'm somewhat convinced he won't be anything but a hook-up, but I will try to get to know him.

The non-Heeb has panned out to nothing, which means, in a few months, I will be $1 richer and get to say "I told you so" to my friend. Excellent....

No Dates Yet, But.....

I have had some very interesting conversations with some guys from JDate recently...who knows if any of them will pan out into actual dates, but for now, it's all good.

Contestant #1: A dude I've been actually speaking to online for over a year now (possibly almost two...I don't really remember when we started). When we began speaking back in the day (which was a Wednesday, by the way), he was doing an internship/residency/whatever you do when you become a doctor in Atlanta. Nevertheless, we kept chatting. He seemed nice, and seemed to want to chat, so why not keep up conversation. A few weeks ago, he was online again after not being online in a while, and I IMed him. Turns out, he's back in NY finally, for good, so now we (technically) could meet up. Interesting...except for one issue...I don't remember his name! I'm hoping to avoid the awkwardness by giving him my number and asking him to call me, and then missing his call, and have him leave me a message STATING HIS NAME AT THE BEEP!

Also, with this "no-name guy", we have had nothing but proper conversations since we began speaking...until today. Out of nowhere, he got all dirty with me! It was kind of unnerving at first, but the more I thought about it, the more I was intrigued by him and his new found dirtiness.

Contestant #2: A guy who my roommate went out on two dates with, but I had forgotten that when I IMed him...he was the one who reminded me of the connection. We have been IMing since then, and the conversations lately have been getting more and more intense, and I think I may actually have to bring it up to my roommate that I'd like to go out with him. He interests me, but I don't think he'll end up being anyone long-term or anyone serious. He's very much like Drew in his love of being non-kosher, and isn't religious enough for me. But, if he's good in bed...

Contestant #3: An animator for a cartoon that I've seen once, who I spoke to the other day. He asked me out for dinner, but I had work to do for a class that night, so I gave him my number and told him to call me.

Which he has...three times...and hasn't left a message once.

How do I know it's him? SLYDIAL baby! Best...invention...ever!

The not-leaving-a-message thing is kind of annoying...I haven't been near my phone, or able to answer, when he has called, so it's not like I've been screening my calls. I really wish he'd leave me a message so I can call him back!

Contestant #4 (and by far, the cutest): a guy who, without my friend's help, I might not have ever made contact with. I saw him on JDate, and hotlisted him. He saw me, and instead of IMing me since I was online, he emailed me. I can't read any emails because I don't pay for JDate, so I asked my friend who does pay to email him for me. Now, I know this could have totally backfired on me, and he could have seen her and liked her instead. Thankfully, it didn't. He emailed me, and we have emailed back and forth a bit. He dared me to call him in his last email, and I did...just with slydial's help (I'm a wuss, I know). So, now I'm waiting for him to call me back.

Not-Really-Sure-If-He's-Even-A-Contestant #1: The reason why I'm not sure if he's a contestant is because it's a weird situation he and I are in. Here are the facts:

• He and I met at a party that he and his (then) girlfriend came to.
• He is in the same field of work that I am in, and we share similar interests regarding that field.
• He and I became fast Facebook friends, and then moved our chats to IM.
• He had been IMing me quite a bit recently and when I brought up his girlfriend, he told me they broke up (what???).
• Ever since that conversation, he has still been IMing me, and has been venting his frustrations about the break up with me.
• We have tentative plans to get food and drinks on Tuesday.

I'm a little concerned about Tuesday. I don't know what his intentions are...maybe he just wants to talk...maybe he wants to do something else. My gut is telling me the latter, but my brain (for some reason) wants it to be the first. He's not a Heeb, so there's no relationship that will stem from this. If he wants a fuck buddy, that's fine...he's hot, and I need to get laid. I guess I'll know the deal on Tuesday (especially if other people join us). I need to look hot :)

So, those are the candidates...let's see if any of them make future posts!

A Non-Date Between Former Friends With Benefits

So, I know this is not a post about a date, or someone that I am dating (or used to date for that matter), but I need to write about it, so here we go:

I used to be "friends" with Ilan years ago. We were introduced through friends, had crazy sexual tension for years, and finally got together about 3 years ago. I told him going into it that I wasn't interested in dating him. He's not Jewish, and I wasn't interested in dating anyone who wasn't a Heeb. I was still dating other people while he and I were "coloring", but I didn't sleep with them while I was sleeping with him.

All was fine until I met this guy who I was actually interested in. I told Ilan about him, and told him that we were done sleeping together.

He flipped out.

He cut me out completely. He apparently was getting more attached than I was, so it was hard for him when I told him that we had to stop.

We didn't talk while I was dating the other guy, but when they guy and I broke it off, Ilan and I met up again for drinks at the bar we usually hung out at.

Alcohol + Us = Sex

So, we were back on...sleeping together, but not being in a relationship. We decided not to tell our friends. They would kill us if they knew we were doing this again after how badly things ended the first time.

Fast forward to the night of the fight to end all fights. I had gone out with a guy (who I ended up dating for 4 months), and I decided that I didn't want to sleep with Ilan anymore. But, I also decided to not tell him about the date until after I was sure I wanted to date this other guy (since the last time I ended things early I ended up in a fight with him AND I ended up only dating the other guy for a few weeks). He, on the other hand, had let our friends know we were back to sleeping together. I found out about this hours before our friend's party. Needless to say, I was pissed, so I kind of ignored him during the party. We ended up getting into a fight in the cab ride home, and I told him about the other guy, and things got nasty.

We didn't speak for almost 5 months.

We kind of made up over the summer, and it was a completely platonic relationship. We hung out over the summer a lot and everything was fine.

And then he met his girlfriend.

I never saw him after they started going out (with the exception of our friend's wedding) until last night.

It was so odd seeing him again. Here are the highlights:
1) He looks great.....grrrrrr....
2) His girlfriend is horrible....I've heard stories from his friends about her, but he was telling me things about her that made me want to punch her in the face.
3) He and I were reminiscing about our past...and I was getting turned on thinking about it.
4) When I told him that our friends were busting my chops about us hanging out again, and I said that I told them that I would never sleep with him while he was dating his girlfriend, I was kind of hoping that he would be annoyed about that and want to sleep with me again.

Either way, it was a fun time. I never realized how much I missed talking to him until last night. I feel so comfortable sometimes around him. I said things to him that I don't think I'd say to anyone. We are very similar in some ways.

It sucks that he has a girlfriend. It sucks that he's not a Jew. It just sucks....

So, I Have A Wacky Idea

My friend, Neo Steel, has complained that I haven't been posting enough on my blog. I explained that I'm not actively dating, so unless he has someone to set me up with, he can suck it up and deal.

Which gave me an idea...probably not a good one, but we'll see what happens.

I'm throwing myself out there to be set-up by whoever has a guy for me. Now, I do have some criteria (so don't think I'm getting too crazy with this), and if this criteria is not followed to the LAW, I will stop this experiment STAT!

Requirements:
1) The guy must be Jewish. I'm not getting involved with non-Heebs, just to be disappointed in the end.
2) I would like a guy over 5'11". I'm 5'10", and it's annoying trying to date shorter men. I feel like the jolly green giant when I'm around short guys, and I don't think it's something I can get past.
3) I will have to see a picture of the guy, and do a phone interview before I meet them. I won't just meet a guy blindly (especially when it's set up this way...I would never meet a guy off of JDate without screening him over the phone either).
4) If I do meet the guy, it will be in a public place, preferably during the day, where there are LOTS of witnesses. If you are crazy, don't try to stalk me.

If you would like to take up this challenge, please send your friends/relatives/coworker's pics to me (plus their info) at atleastitsafreemeal@gmail.com

Happy Hunting!